2016 has been a strange year for me. I’m pretty sure I say this about every year, but I’ve seriously struggled with a lot of things. I’ve never been one of those people who believe that a new year will change everything. That’s ridiculous. It’s just another day, truly, but at the same time I can see the perspective of people who see it as an opportunity for change.
I’m attempting to see 2017 in a positive way. I’m hoping 2017 will bring better things. I’m not ignorant enough to think that 2017 will drop better things in my lap, but I’m trying to work for better things.
So, on that note, here are 16 things I’ve learned in 2016.
- You can’t compare yourself to someone else. This works in all aspects, whether it’s your appearance, your career, your education or your level of success. Comparing yourself to another person isn’t fair. Just don’t do it.
- I don’t have time for negativity. Situations, people, anything. Get rid of it. It will hold you back.
- Accept what you can’t change. This is one of the hardest things to do. I’ve struggled so much with this and still do. I’m not sure I’ve got it down, but I know I have to do it.
- It’s okay to take a break. I’ve taken a few breaks from blogging this year. I’ve hated every second of it, but I’ve needed it every time. It’s the most stressful thing, ever. But, if you need a break, it’s okay to take one. This applies to basically anything; if you take a break from your job, make sure your boss knows, or you know, that break may be extended.
- College isn’t for everyone. In no way am I telling you to not go to college, but I am saying that it is not for everyone, and I’m saying this as someone with a degree and more debt than one person needs. I made many mistakes on the way to my degree, which ended in 4 changes in major and much more debt than I should have incurred. This goes back to the accepting what I can’t change thing, which sucks, because if I could, I would. I wouldn’t have done any of it. The only thing I’ve gotten from it is a ton of debt.
- Accept yourself. You have to. It’s another thing that is difficult for a lot of people, but you have to learn to accept and love yourself for who you are or you will never be happy.
- Mental Health is so important. I’ve never went into this on my blog, but I will write a post about my anxiety/depression soon. To make this short, I’ve struggled since I was a teenager, I didn’t do anything about it until a few months ago. It’s still a work in progress, and there are good days & bad days, but I’m trying to work through everything. It’s something that no one takes seriously, but everyone should.
- Makeup isn’t everything. Weird coming from me, but hear me out. I love makeup, I love talking about it, applying it, trying new products, etc., and I will continue to do so. Since I haven’t had an income of my own, my spending has severely been cut this past year. To put in in perspective, in 2015, I reached Rouge at Sephora & Platinum at Ulta by April. That’s not counting purchases from other places like Colourpop. For 2016, I’ve spent less than $250 across Ulta and Sephora, and less than $100 at Colourpop. It’s been fine. I miss grabbing all of the new releases, because it’s fun, but I don’t necessarily need them and at the moment, I honestly just can’t.
- Skincare is impossible. If there’s one beauty related issue I’ve truly struggled with in 2016, it’s skincare. Since getting Nexplanon, my hormones are all over the place, so I’ve been graced with hormonal acne ALL OF THE TIME. So now, I constantly have acne & acne scarring, giant pores, redness, oil around my nose, but my nose and the rest of my face is so dry that it’s constantly flaking no matter what I do.
- Nexplanon is a blessing and a curse. On that same note, this is kind of a nightmare. Nexplanon is awesome in that it lasts for 3 years and I’m not popping a pill everyday. But it’s definitely causing the acne, and it is also causing my hair to be oily at the scalp, but my scalp is super dry. It’s never been like this before, so I know why it’s like this now. Also, weight gain.
- Cruelty free is the only way. I can no longer support brands that aren’t cruelty free. I can’t fathom why some brands still test their products on animals. I don’t care about China and their laws. It’s quite simple, don’t sell in China. I think I might have a product or two to post about that isn’t cruelty free since I’m so behind, but once it’s done, there won’t be anymore posted on this blog.
- Your opinion is the only one that matters. No matter what it is you’re doing, your opinion matters and only yours. No one else’s opinion of you matters. Ignore them. Ignore the hate, ignore the hateful comments and never let them bother you. As I’ve gotten older, it’s been easier to just not care anymore, but I used to and everything was so much harder then. Don’t let them get to you. If it’s on social media, block them if you need to, that’s the easiest way to deal with them and my personal favorite.
- You can leave the house without makeup. I used to be the worst about this. I would absolutely not leave the house without makeup when I was younger. As I got older, I didn’t care anymore, and then I started going to the gym and never wore makeup there, so I rarely put it on to leave. Then, the acne came and I inched back into the “can’t leave the house without it” mentality. I’m working on getting back out of it, and it’s hard for me.
- Instagram filters are the devil. But really. So here’s the thing, as I mentioned, the acne is the bane of my existence. I didn’t have it when I was a teenager, and I never had it bad until now, so I don’t know how to deal with it. I’m extremely self conscious over it, and I literally struggle with posting a picture anywhere that I haven’t thrown in an editing program to edit the acne out of because foundation and concealer won’t fully cover it. I’m not trying to judge, but I don’t smooth my skin out until my nose fades out of existence like some girls on IG, all I do is remove the acne, but I hate it. I feel so fake even removing the acne, but I feel so gross if I upload it unedited, and it’s actually all I see. It’s truly a problem for me. With all of these editing programs and IG filters, I have to wonder what these people look like if you see them out in public. Would you even recognize them?
- Instagram makeup is the worst. On that same note, how much makeup can one person put on their face? I’m starting to think Instagram was invented just to find out. I don’t see how the majority of the makeup you see on IG could look good in person, because there’s just so many layers caked on. I know some of the looks are purely for IG and they don’t go out like that, but a lot of them do. I just, don’t know.
- You have to keep going, no matter what. I’ve struggled a lot. I’ve went back and forth over whether or not to keep blogging or to move on. Obviously, I decided to keep blogging. I love writing, I love reviewing makeup, I love posting makeup looks and I want to keep going. Some days are hard and some days I truly struggle to get out of bed. I know I’m not alone and just know that you aren’t either.